Is This Why Men Think Women Are ‘Dramatic’?

A closer look at anxiety, mental overload, and why women seem to be ‘everywhere’ all at once.

In the thick of daily responsibilities, it can feel that life is unraveling from every corner.

From the pressure of chasing careers, getting somethings in life, to caring for families to managing social lives and internal expectations, many women find themselves in a perpetual state of overwhelm.

Juggling everything and never quite catching their breath.

But mental health experts and lifestyle coaches now stress the importance of what they call the “pause-and-reset” moment, a psychological reset that encourages presence, prioritization, and inner calm in the middle of chaos.

“Many women today are operating in what we call a survival mode,” says Jane Mwikali, a Nairobi-based life coach.

“They wake up and immediately hit the ground running, chasing one demand after another without checking in with themselves.”

Instead, Mwikali recommends what she calls a mental meeting with self: a brief moment, even just five minutes, to ground oneself and acknowledge the surrounding pressures — without letting them dictate the day.

“Tell yourself, ‘Yes, life feels everywhere right now. But I will deal with what is in front of me, one thing at a time,’” she says.

The Power of Micro-Presence

Recent psychological studies back up this advice.

According to research published in the Journal of Behavioral Science, people who consciously focus on one task at a time, rather than multitasking, report lower stress levels, improved mental clarity, and a greater sense of accomplishment by the end of the day. Is this the reason Men always think that women are dramatic...because they cant focus?

Dr. Lydia Omondi, a clinical psychologist, notes that women are often socialized to be “everything to everyone,” which makes single-tasking feel like underachieving. But in reality, it's a healthier and more sustainable way to navigate pressure.

“Your brain isn’t designed to process everything all at once. The chaos might still be there, but when you focus on one task, doing the dishes, answering that one email, helping your child with homework, going to do something that puts food on the table, you actually build momentum and calm your nervous system,” she told BlueSpace.

Calling Yourself to a Meeting

The phrase “call yourself to a meeting” has become something of a self-love mantra among Kenyan women online, a reminder to pause and regroup before you react or give a reaction to something or someone. It involves:

• Taking stock of what’s overwhelming you.

• Choosing the one thing you can control right now.

• Repeating this practice throughout the day.

  
  

"Even five minutes of presence can change your day,” says Mwikali.

"It’s not about having it all together, it’s about knowing that you’re doing what you can, right now.”

In a fast-paced world, always-on culture, slowing down feels like rebellion.

But for many women navigating impossible expectations, it is a lifeline. That breath of fresh air you need. It will be difficult af first, but everytime you think of doing something. Ask yourself, is it going to help me, can I handle it right now, and give yourself some grace. The next time everything feels like too much, take that breath, call a meeting with yourself, and remind your heart: one step at a time. Send this or read this to any female in your life. She needs to hear this.